this "yourself" I was supposed to believe in? Was it really this mistake-making, confused-too-often woman?
That didn't seem right, somehow.
But it was.
When I thought about it - which I did for many years, looking for the answer that would satisfy - I had to come down on the side of a few things:
So, apparently, I'm not supposed to be invisible, perfect, nor devoid of personality.
I was so hoping to be traditional, to fit in, to go with society's flow!
Oops, there goes that social conditioning again.
Social conditioning is not a very nice sort of companion. it tells you and me really mean things like:
Super fun, right? Not so much. Especially #2, which is the polar opposite of "believ in yourself".
So, without all of those hideous thoughts and practices, we're left with the alternative, which is far better.
Apparently I am supposed to be me (and you, you!) - flawed, creative, full of my own kind of personality, eager to grow and learn and share. Well, now that's a challenge! And I need community to maintain my efforts, so I continue to build community.
Believing in yourself...believing that you are fine just as you are and that you do not, in fact, have to measure up to anyone else, nor they to you...believing in your ability to grow and change, and to get the help to do that. Believing that you have the innate wisdom to walk your own way...
Entrepreneur, Actor, Speaker and Rebellious Game-Changer - that's me. I coach women, helping them recognize, understand and break out of the social "shoulds" to become empowered, powerful and masterful communicators, on stage and off.