You are in a meeting. You're the only woman in an all-male meeting, and your ideas are suddenly put under the microscope, which is professional Or your ideas are suddenly attacked as being useless or worth ignoring, which is not professional.
Take a moment, and notice if you are breathing. More than that, notice if you are taking full breaths. What happens if you are not breathing fully is that the oxygen is not supporting your brain, and you are more likely to go into fight or flight. And that place does nothing for your creative and problem-solving thinking .
(2) Plant your feet.
Stand up. Look down.
Are your feet close together or a hip's length apart? Whichever answer you gave, try moving your feet to the opposite stance and ask yourself: "Which one makes me feel stronger and more grounded?"
Whichever answer you gave to that question, remember it. And the next time you need a boost of strength, use that grounded position to remind not just your mind but your entire physiology of Who You Are. I predict a sense of awe when you try this one for the first time.
That's a strange one when you're feeling stressed, isn't it?
Actually, not really. This is a power place for the feminine. Water is feminine - it flows with relaxed abandon without stopping its natural direction, and eventually cuts even through rock. Case in point: the Grand Canyon. The effects of water created this national beauty just by being what it is.
You can do exactly the same thing when you're being verbally attacked. You can do it by relaxing your body: taking that breath, lowering your shoulders, and choosing to know two things: (1) No actual blood will be spilt in the making of this movie - er - conversation, and (2) you actually can relax into what you know. The Good Girl setting in your psyche tells your body to fight like hell for survival. A far better setting is the Badass Girl, if you will. That woman tells herself that what is happening is not actually life-threatening, and that it's an attack instead of truth.
Relaxing alone will do far more than fightin' words to unnerve your attacker. They're gonna wonder why you're suddenly smiling, and while they're suddenly bracing for a counterattack, you will simply know what you know as truth in this conversation, and you will speak it. And they will be forced to hear it, without the use of force.
Now that's a position of success.
Entrepreneur, Actor, Speaker and Rebellious Game-Changer - that's me. I coach women, helping them recognize, understand and break out of the social "shoulds" to become empowered, powerful and masterful communicators, on stage and off.