We have learned the rules, and we have learned them well.
We have learned them from the Corporate environments we have slaved in.
We learned them to survive and to try to rise, and although they never worked, we didn't think we could do anything about it. We learned to:
The truth - and you already know, or suspect this - is that there is another way. There are, in fact, so many other ways to do things.
The thing is: they come from us! So we have to take that revolutionary step of creating that other way! How on earth do we do that???
1. Start questioning the nature of the things that look solid to you.
For instance, if you don't have enough money to do something, is money the only way you can get there? If you need money to purchase business coaching, have you asked the coach about your situation? Or have you considered the possibility that there may be another type of learning situation that will meet your needs not just more cheaply, but will suit your development better?
The beauty of questioning is that we open our consciousness to possibilities that we would never ever have seen otherwise. It pays like crazy to ASK QUESTIONS!
2. Stop trying to do this all by yourself.
You have friends. You have business colleagues. You can ask them this important question: Are there other ways that you have heard of that would work to address this problem I'm facing? Is there another way to look at it?
People love to give advice if you tell them exactly what you're looking for. So go for it! Ask, ask, ask!
3. Try something, and try it the way that you would do it.
That sounds pretty janky, doesn't it? I mean, you're the one doing what you do. But are you really, or are you unconsciously just following the rules again - those gnarly rules that are running your mind and your expectations like electricity runs a machine?
It's a magic sentence a dear and beloved friend gave me years ago. Feel free to use it. Ask yourself: "How would I do it???"
And then do it.
You can adjust it after you do it. And from that exercise, your self-confidence will rise like the phoenix and you will begin to know that you really do, after all, have the answers. It just has a different nature than you thought. But you'll take it. Because it works.
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Emotional Linguist™ and Feminine Leadership Coach for Mission-Driven Businesswomen and Entrepreneurs, Lori is a rabble-rouser for women leaders, the host of Awake TV Network's show, "Goodbye Good Girl: The Feminine Face of Leadership", and author of The Human Solution: The Feminine Face of Business.
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