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You cannot stay where you are, and change

1/20/2021

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I didn't care what she was saying, and that was an unexpected sign of my personal growth.

I was chatting with a woman about transformation, change, new choices. She 
was telling me why she was in emotional pain - not able to make her dreams happen - and she was starting  her sentences in the ways I had started sentences so many times in my own past:

​"I want to try that new career path, but I don't think I'm good enough."

"I'd like to stop caring what others think, but I can't..."

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Feminine Leadership is a Revolutionary Act

7/30/2020

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We have learned the rules, and we have learned them well.

We have learned them from the Corporate environments we have slaved in.

We learned them to survive and to try to rise, and although they never worked, we didn't think we could do anything about it. We learned to:

  • Obey the rules the people put out from above.
  • Not ruffle feathers.
  • Believe in lack and limitation.
  • Believe that "we are not powerful, they are powerful."
  • Believe that "I am not worth much, because I am not 'up there' ."
These messages - and more - could not be further from the truth if we tried to push them out on an ice floe!


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Zoomophobia, Authenticity in Business, and Other Breakthrough Needs

7/26/2020

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I know someone who left her corporate high-level job one week before COVID hit. So did her husband. They took off for warmer climes - the Virgin Islands, to be precise - to start a Bed & Breakfast. And then - one week later - COVID hit.

What a great excuse for panic. But instead of panicking, she started looking for independent work to do. She asked herself, "What can I do to stay afloat here until I know how to do something different?" And even amidst the nervousness, she made room in her consciousness: maybe there is something I can do.

I hired her to be my Virtual Assistant until her business got going.

The reason I mention her is that she confronted the unknown, she asked some questions of herself, made room for potential answers, and she moved forward. In scary times of the unknown, we need steps that we can place our feet on with certainty. Without that, we spin.

In these uncertain times, we also have our so-called Number One fear to deal with: public speaking. Okay, it's not exactly the same as getting onto a stage and giving a talk - granted! - but I know a lot of people, a lot of businesswomen, a lot of entrepreneurs who are having fits dealing with having to be so visible on Zoom. 

I also have a friend who will not chat on Zoom with me because she doesn't like the way she looks, and she doesn't want to see herself on that medium. That's a terrible situation in which I have to miss my friend at the time I could use connections the most.

For businesswomen/entrepreneurs, the problem is equally acute. 

What do you do if you have to now do your business online? Live? On Zoom, or GoToWebinar?...and you are profoundly uncomfortable with the process, and lacking any ways of being able to check your effectiveness or appropriateness?

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Women and Leadership: How you know you're a leader

8/11/2019

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I can't count the number of times I sat in an office in my 20's and asked the one question that absolutely killed my boss's patience: "But...how will this task I'm doing impact that task over there?"

That's the question a leader asks. Leaders want to know the 360-degree and it's not because they are ego-starved for power; it's because they understand that no one thing in business lives in a vacuum. Everything impacts everything else!

Leaders - real leaders - understand that their job is to serve those below them, to help them do their best work, to invite them to grow in ways that will benefit them personally as well as benefit the company.

This kind of leader is too rare. But it might be you. And if you are that kind of leader, it's time to approach that understanding within yourself. 

You know you're a leader if...


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Change the game...change your role

8/10/2019

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"Environment is stronger than will." The first time I heard that, I didn't know what it meant.

Then I moved to California from the Midwest, spent 13 years giving all of my money to the Bay Area cost of living, and returned home to find myself waiting there, thrilled to be more myself, back in my home environment, and now very much aware of the meaning of that saying.

Its meaning is no different in being applied to traditional business; environment is stronger than will, stronger than creativity, stronger than personal drive. Change the environment, and you court the possibility of infusing your business with the oxygen of vision, inspiration and true cooperation.


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The Personal Places Where the Business Answers Hide

8/5/2019

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Being in control of your business sounds good, right? In some respects, that may be the very thing holding you back from the successes you are working so hard to attain.

It all depends on what kind of control you are committed to. If you are committed to the "lone cowboy" approach, you are courting the kind of disaster that ego is expert at creating.

If, instead, you are committed to being in service to a mission and vision that may require your humility instead of your Rambo-like decision-making powers, you may just see the holy grails of business: where the core troubles lie, and where the most unexpected and regenerative answers are hiding.

You already know about the Iceberg of Ignorance. We all do. But we have made an enormous error in leaving the people solutions to Human Resources, surveys, surface reward structures and comments about "open doors".

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Do you want to know what your unseen problems are?

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The Freedom in Leadership that Women Fear ... and Don't Have To

7/4/2019

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My friend Theresa was just introduced to Brené Brown for the first time, and she was captivated. The part she repeated to me had to do with vulnerability and courage - courage not being necessary at all unless you are actually being vulnerable. Brené reportedly said that if you are going to be vulnerable, you are in fact going to be hurt.

Well at first blush that doesn't sound particularly desirable, does it.

It is, in fact, good news. It means you are going to step out from the rank-and-file behaviors that keep you safe from the new. 

You are going to be alive now. Much more alive.


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It's a new day!

6/30/2019

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It's a new day y'all!

​First of all, because this happened last of all so it's top of my mind, Facebook has shown me a phrase (thanks Facebook) that is so totally me, I can hardly stop jumping up and down. You know how that is, when you come across something that makes you go, "OHMYGOD THAT'S MEEEEE!!!!!"???


I saw this ad for women speakers who are futurists. Futurist. Women. Speakers. And I went...all together now!..."OHMYGOD, THAT'S MEEEEE!!!" But what does that have to do with not being a good girl and what does it have to do with identity and Big Shifts, which is what I facilitate and work towards in my work with all of my client-friends?

Identity begets action.


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The Surprisingly Forgivable, Spiritual, and Changeable Reason the Last Person On Your List Seems to Be You

2/27/2019

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You don't have to choose between yourself and another; taking a seat at your own sumptuous table feeds everyone.

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There is an old story that comes out of the East:

Just before the launch of Humanity 1.0 (so to speak) the Gods sat around in Heaven discussing the issue of where to hide each human's soul. They didn't want to make the greatest gift too easy to find.

One said, "Why don't we hide it in an animal, like a deer? It is beautiful, and fleet - hard to catch."

But the others said, "No, that won't work at all, because they will eventually kill the deer to eat their meat, and the soul will be released and they will find it too easily."

Another one of the Gods spoke up. "Why don't we hide it in trees. They are sturdy and will last for eons and protect the soul well."

But the others said, "No, no, that won't work either. They will cut down the trees to make fire and to build shelter, and that also will be too easy an access."

The Gods pondered and pondered, bringing up suggestion after suggestion. For a short time - which for a God is still, of course, an eternity - they felt stumped.


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You’re not “too emotional”. You’re not emotional enough!

2/21/2019

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The Invisible Fight to Own the Respect and Power of Emotion
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i was eleven years old when my father took me to the hospital to see my mother who had gone in for “some tests for bursitis”. He warned me that she might be hooked up to some tubes and that it shouldn’t upset me. An emotionally buoyant little girl, I was not cowed by that warning and I bounced into the room and up onto her bed to hug her.
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Which is when she told me that she was actually in hospital for a biopsy. And that she had breast cancer.

I started to cry. And she – alarmed because she didn’t want to turn into a river of tears herself – said urgently, “No, no! Don’t cry!” And I stopped. Immediately. My emotional reaction was too much for my mother to bear, and I would have done anything for her. So I held it all back.

Years later when I entered the business arena, I encountered a different type of fear of emotion, one that all women come to understand in this Western culture of ours: emotion is both the butt of too many jokes about us and an accusation leveled against us when we seem too powerful. I was a little surprised, some years even further on, when I began to hear emotion referred to more positively, more as “a consummation devoutly to be wished” (to quote Mr. Shakespeare) when someone (generally a man) needed to laud his intuition.

But it is clear to every woman that emotion is judged differently for women than it is for men. To highlight this situation, allow me to usie a very recent and notable example.

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    Lori Kirstein

    Emotional Linguist™ and Feminine Face of Leadership Coach for Mission-Driven Businesswomen and Entrepreneurs, Lori is a rabble-rouser for women leaders, the host of Awake TV Network's show, "Goodbye Good Girl: The Feminine Face of Leadership", and author of The Human Solution: The Feminine Face of Business.

    Question everything you think you know about your "failure" to speak up when you wanted to - because you're about to walk a path you've always dreamed of. And you're going to walk it as your authentic self.

    There is truly nothing better.


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